10 Characteristics Of High Need Babies And Ways To Handle It

Raising high needs babies can be challenging since they constantly require attention and easily get agitated when they are left to entertain themselves. Every baby’s personality is different; some tend to stay calm if their needs are met, while others remain dissatisfied and restless. Persistent display of fussiness and restlessness often indicates a high need behavior.

High needs babies may get irritated if their needs are not met promptly, and it is often difficult to satisfy and calm them. However, some parents and caregivers succeed in managing these behaviors with the right tactics.

Read on to learn more about the effects and ways to deal with high needs babies.

Signs And Characteristics Of High Need Babies

The signs of high need babies may vary. The following are some of the common habits and characteristics of high need babies.

  1. Intense:High need babies act intensely for every feeling and activity, including crying, protesting, and feeding. These babies may come across as overly motivated and driven to achieve their demands than their peers.
High need babies often act intensely
  1. Hyperactive: These are often hypertonic babies, meaning that their body muscles are usually tensed and ready to react quickly to any action. Such babies may stiffen and arch their back when a new person tries to hold them.
  1. Draining: Fulfilling the baby’s unending needs drains out the energy from caregivers. Parents with high needs babies may feel more exhausted than those with babies with normal needs.
  1. Frequent feeding: A high needs baby may demand feed for comfort,, even when they are not hungry or have been fed recently.
  1. Demanding: The only way the baby asks for things is through demands. For instance, if a high need baby wants to be held by a parent, they may not merely request and instead throw a tantrum until the demand is fulfilled.
  1. Awakens quickly: High needs babies need more of everything except sleep. They get energized quickly from naps, and may sleep for fewer hours at night than other babies.
High need babies sleep for fewer hours
  1. Dissatisfied: This is the part of the high needs baby’s personality. The caregiver fulfills the need, but the baby is still not satisfied and wants the parents to address the demand continuously.
  1. Separation sensitive: Most babies develop separation anxiety between the ages of eight and 12 months (1). However, high need babies tend to be more sensitive to separation and develop anxiety easily when in the company of strangers. The baby may also take more time than usual to accept a new face as a caregiver.
  1. Can’t put the baby away: Your arms are where a high need baby would like to stay all the time. Any attempts to place the clingy baby elsewhere may result in hysterical crying. A high need baby may also demand to be held and cuddled each time they feel scared or are in discomfort.
Such babies demand to be held and cuddled
  1. Unpredictable: What works for a high need baby today may not work tomorrow; unpredictability becomes the norm. The baby may constantly change their desire and comforting actions, such as cradling, lullabies, or pacifiers. 
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Difference Between A Colicky Baby And A High Needs Baby

Here are a few notable attributes of colicky babies that differentiate them from high need babies.

  • A colicky baby cries with intensity, but the reason behind their cry is often gas or digestive discomfort (2).
  • A baby with coliciXPeriodic and predictable crying episodes in infants for an extended period with no definitive cause. is likely to appear in pain during a colic episode. They will arch their back or kick legs in an attempt to release the digestive gases.
  • Unlike high need babies, colicky infants observe a routine and have predictable behavioral attributes. They also do not seem hyperactive and sleep adequately.
  • Colicky babies are not demanding like high needs babies. Once the underlying problem is addressed, a colicky baby calms down.
  • Colic tends to be most common during the first six weeks of life and usually goes away by the age of four months (3). A high needs baby is likely to display fussiness and crying even into toddlerhood. 

Why Are Some Babies Needier Than Others?

It is not fully known why some babies tend to have high needs. Babies can have varying personalities and different reactions to the same environment or situation (4). A baby may have a tolerant reaction to a situation, such as a wet diaper, while another baby may display intense crying to attract the parents’ attention and get the issue resolved quickly.

It is likely that some babies have high needs due to their specific personality, which might be affected by a combination of genetic and environmental factors (5). However, it is not entirely known if it is a result of nature, nurture, or both, thus parents should neither blame themselves nor the baby for the high needs behavior.

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Effects Of Being A High Needs Baby

The effects of a high need personality could vary and may not last forever. Some studies note that a few adulthood behavioral attributes, such as conscientiousnessiXA personality trait associated with an individual doing their work in a careful and thorough manner. and impulsiveness, may originate in childhood (6). However, infancy is too early a stage to determine a person’s ultimate personality. Also, childhood personality attributes need not be binding since a child’s behavior can significantly change even through the end of the teenage years.

Therefore, the long-term effects of a high need personality on the baby are not fully understood. If you have any concerns related to your baby’s high need behavior, speak to a pediatrician. 

Andrea Dekker, a mother of four children, shares her experience raising a high-needs baby and how her baby has evolved over the years. She says, “Fast-forward 6 years, and I can honestly say Nora is just like any other typical child her age. She has her own unique quirks, mood swings, and personal preferences, but she can function appropriately in most situations (i).” Andrea’s experience illustrates that having a high-needs baby in infancy may not necessarily have a lasting adverse impact on a child’s behavior as they grow up.

Ways To Deal With Your High Needs Baby

Parents may explore tactics that work the best in calming the intense high need behavior of their baby. The following are a few suggestions.

  1. Do not immediately address the baby’s demands. A demanding infant may eventually learn that vehement demands will not be entertained. Thus, wait and observe if the baby cools down and stops the behavior.
  1. Remain calm and patient. Yelling at the baby or displaying aggressive gestures might make matters worse and exacerbate the high need behavior.
Patiently deal with high need behavior
  1. Address all the essential demands of the baby, such as timely feeding and changing the diapers. As a parent, you are quite likely to sense which demand is natural and which ones are motivated by high needs.
  1. Observe the baby when they display a high need behavior. You may even maintain a notebook to take notes. It will help you identify triggers and signs that are unique to your high needs baby.
  1. Make a note of the games, activities, or toys that seem to calm your baby down. You may offer a pacifier to the baby, which is known to calm fussy babies (7).
  1. Distract the baby each time they display high need behavior. Engaging the baby in a conversation, showing them something interesting, or playing games that intrigue babies, such as peek-a-boo, could trick the baby into calming down.
  1. You may try massaging the baby periodically since it is known to relax babies (8). It may eventually help curtail hyperactivity and help the baby sleep better.
Massaging may help baby sleep better
  1. Take the help of your partner and family members to manage the baby’s behavior. You may attain success more easily if multiple caregivers adopt the same strategy to deal with a high need baby.
  1. Take the help of a support group of parents encountering similar situations. You may also explore playgroups for babies with high needs.
  1. If nothing works, hand your baby to a trusted caregiver, and take a break. It would be a change for you and the baby. A change in caregiver may also break the cycle of high need behavior of the baby.
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Once you identify the cause and cure of your baby’s high need behavior, follow it diligently.  Take the help of a pediatrician or a pediatric behavioral therapist if required.

A high-needs baby usually requires extra love and support, which could be exhausting for the parents and caregivers. Be observant of your baby’s triggers to help prevent fussy behaviors. With time, you may be able to better comprehend and manage your baby’s behavior. Remember, your baby’s demanding behavior is not your baby’s mistake, and it could be a normal part of their development. Though you may feel disappointed with your baby’s behavior, this is a temporary phase that shall pass soon. However, if you have any concerns regarding your baby’s behavior, consult your pediatrician.

Key Pointers

  • High need babies demand and require constant attention.
  • A high-need baby is characterized by hyperactivity, a demanding personality, and separation sensitivity.
  • Colic babies are different from high need babies because they are less demanding and calm down after their needs are addressed.

Let us look into the unique needs of high-need babies and identify the most effective strategies for providing them with the best care in this video.

Article written by Baby Plumbing

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